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About Us
Te Kupenga Whakaoti Mahi Patunga/National Network of Family Violence Services is a national body representing a range of specialist family violence services across Aotearoa/New Zealand.
Our member agencies are located within local communities and provide a range of specialist services and programmes to men, women, children, young people, whānau and families impacted by family violence. Help is available for victims/survivors and for those who use, have used or at risk of using family violence.
We are a bicultural organisation based on the principles of Te Tiriti o Waitangi.
You can find out more about us below.
In undertaking their Mahi / Work, our members commit to the following pou:
Te Tiriti o Waitangi
Acknowledging Māori people as Tangata Whenua and actualising the “partnership intended” by Te Tiriti.
Te tapu o te whare tangata me te ahua atua o te tamariki, mo nga tangata katoa
Honouring the sanctity of women, the divinity of children for all humankind (reflected in our Statement of Paramountcy “The safety of women and children is paramount.”)
Tu Tangata Tāne
Providing a place for Tāne (men) to stand (in taking responsibility for speaking out against men’s violence and being accountable for their own violence)
Our members also commit to the following values:
TIKANGA
We will respect and follow the correct processes in the way we do our work
TINO RANGATIRATANGA
We will honour the self-determination and autonomy of all and ensure that “the relevant people decide”
MANA TANGATA
We will be respectful in our work and conduct ourselves in mana enhancing ways in all relationships
AROHA
We will undertake out work in a supportive and nurturing environment with a generosity of spirit and compassion
TUMANAKO
We will be forward focused, proactive and visionary
PONO
We will be honest and upfront in our engagements and behave with integrity
KOI MAHI
We will encourage and engage in best practice, we are committed to excellence in practice including complimenting with appropriate epidemiologies
RANGIMARIE
We will act with generosity, understanding and goodwill to all people
Our shared vision is for an Aotearoa / New Zealand wide family violence prevention and response system which is accountable, effective, sustainable, accessible, and just.
By “family violence prevention and response system” we mean all the parts of and laws and policies, practices and procedures which are responsible for preventing family violence and/or addressing it when it occurs.
When we say a “system which is accountable, effective, sustainable, accessible, and just” we mean a system which:
- Is promotes a consistent societal message that family violence, in all its forms, is unacceptable, unlawful and will not be tolerated;
- Subscribes to the notion that, in Aotearoa, violence is both gendered and a direct effect of colonisation;
- Acknowledges that the primary purpose is to account to and ensure the safety of victims/survivors of family violence;
- Embraces the understanding that accountability to victims/survivors and effectiveness are best achieved by a dual approach which BOTH holds the perpetrator to account (for example, through criminal processes) AND ensures the perpetrator has ample opportunity to confront, address and stop their own unacceptable and unlawful behaviours;
- Is centrally coordinated by government (horizontal coordination) but is guided and informed by the wider community, particularly those people and population groups most impacted by family violence (vertical coordination);
- Is sufficiently resourced in the long term to ensure that all parts of the system can operate effectively and in unison with all other parts of the system;
- Is capable of meeting people where they are and can respond and adapt to the needs of the individuals, families and whānau who access or may need to access it;
- Ensures that intervention is timely, fair and transparent.
All our members respect and work from a space which recognises that:
- Family violence in Aotearoa/New Zealand is gendered in nature and its victims are, most often, women and children. This does not diminish the understanding that some men can be victims and some women can be perpetrators of family violence;
- The over-representation of Māori in family violence statistics is a direct result of colonisation and has enduring impacts on the structure of Māori society (whānau, iwi, hapū), its sense of autonomy and well-being and its ability to make decisions for itself;
- The colonising culture in Aotearoa/New Zealand is imbued with “normalising narratives” (stories it tells about itself) which serve to maintain its dominance and which actively work against efforts to address family violence. Those include, but are not limited to:
Normalising Narrative
There are only two genders. Each have specific roles, responsibilities and expected models of behaviour and appearance.
Corresponding Belief Systems
The male gender is more important, rational, powerful, worthy than the female gender.
Those who do not adhere to their assigned gender or who fail to adhere to their specified gender roles, responsibilities and models of behaviour and appearance are less valuable or worthy of protection than those who do adhere.
Family Violence Impact
High levels of women as well as transgender people who are victims of family violence. Low levels of reporting of family violence towards men and disbelief that men can be victims and women can be perpetrators.
Normalising Narrative
There is only one true or valid sexual orientation - heterosexuality.
Corresponding Belief Systems
Sexualities, other than heterosexuality, are less important, valuable, acceptable or worthy of respect or protection.
Family Violence Impact
High levels of family (and societal) violence towards LGBTIQ people.
Normalising Narrative
The productive able-bodied person is the ideal.
Corresponding Belief Systems
People who are too young or old to be productive are less valuable. Bodies which are less able are less valuable than able bodies.
Family Violence Impact
High levels of family violence towards children, the elderly and people with disabilities.
Normalising Narrative
Pākehā culture is the one true and worthy culture.
Corresponding Belief Systems
Other cultures and their peoples are less worthy, rational, advanced, capable or worthy of respect and protection. Pākehā culture has all the right answers.
Family Violence Impact
High levels of family violence towards and between Māori people and people from diverse cultures.
Our members undertake their mahi from that shared analysis and endeavour to engage in practices which challenge those normalising narratives.
Te Kupenga Whakaoti Mahi Patunga / National Network of Family Violence Services Incorporated recognises that family violence is “everyone’s business” and that everyone (including government and non-government instrumentalities and specialist and non-specialist agencies) has roles and responsibilities in relation to preventing family violence and responding to it when it occurs.
Wherever possible, we are committed to working in partnership with all other parts of the system and collaborating with other agencies, networks and entities in addressing family violence.
Consistent with our kaupapa, pou and matapono, what distinguishes Te Kupenga from others is that we have specific responsibility for speaking to the “perpetrator narrative”.
While almost all our member agencies today provide support and services to victims, perpetrators and their extended families and whānau, our whakapapa to men’s stopping violence services over thirty years, provides us with specific insight and experience in terms of that narrative.
The Perpetrator Narrative
- An effective family violence prevention and response system must always be focused on ensuring the safety of victims/survivors, their families/whānau and of accounting to victims/survivors when violence occurs;
- The most effective way of ensuring safety and accounting to victims/survivors is by preventing violence from ever occurring, and, if it does, ensuring that it does not recur;
- As such, an effective family violence system must have a consistent message that violence in all its forms is unacceptable and will not be tolerated and, when violence does occur, ensures that the system:
a) Holds perpetrators to account for their violence; AND
b) Provides perpetrators with appropriate and supported opportunities to alter their behaviours; - Engaging in violent behaviour is ALWAYS a choice made by the perpetrator;
- While there may be multiple explanations for the behaviour of perpetrators, ranging from the systemic (for example, the nature of a patriarchal system, the impacts of colonisation) to the personal (for example, early exposure to family violence, mental health and addictions), none of those explanations detract from the position that violent behaviour is a choice made by the perpetrator;
- Explanations are useful to inform the type of supported interventions with the perpetrator which may be required to address and prevent violent behaviours but those explanations never excuse those behaviours;
- With skilled, timely, resourced and compassionate interventions, most perpetrators can be supported to make safer and healthier choices about their behaviour.
A family violence system which does not recognise, heed and invest in the perpetrator narrative is one which is destined to create more victims.
The Mahi of the Network
Broadly, our work is to provide effective advocacy, leadership and support to and for our members as specialist family violence services across Aotearoa/New Zealand.
By advocacy, we mean activities which seek to bring to fruition our vision. Advocacy activities may include (but are not limited to); promoting structural change through lobbying government and politicians, writing submissions designed to influence structural and legal reform, participating in consultation processes designed to inform systemic change, using media platforms to both highlight limitations in the current family violence prevention and response system and give voice to ideas and solutions in addressing those limitations and forming or joining alliances and coalitions with like-minded organisations to pursue our vision.
By leadership, we mean being a trusted source of information, advice and ideas to achieve our vision. Our leadership activities may include (but are not limited to); undertaking and supporting research to inform the development of the family violence prevention and response system, developing and promoting best practice in family violence prevention and response services, promoting and showcasing the work of our members and using media platforms to deliver commentary.
By support for our members, we mean utilising our resources in ways which provide practical assistance to our members in undertaking their work. Our membership support activities may include (but are not limited to); providing advice and training to members, providing and facilitating communication and information sharing platforms, identifying and resourcing opportunities for collaborations between members and between members and other parts of the family violence prevention and response system, and identifying and sharing with members opportunities to enhance their knowledge, skills and organisational capacities in undertaking their work.
By “specialist family violence services”, we mean those agencies which are members of (or eligible for membership of) Te Kupenga and which have as their sole or substantial focus, the delivery of services, programmes and other supports to people who are perpetrators of or impacted by family violence.
The Governance of our Network
Our members elect representatives to the Partnership Rōpū (governance board). This is made up of the Māori Executive Committee (3 members), which has oversight of kaupapa Māori services, and the Tauiwi Executive Committee, (3 members) which has responsibility for tauiwi (non-Māori) services. Across the Rōpū, there is equal representation of men and women.
We liken the sides of our Rōpū to the two walls of a wharenui (meeting house): the walls rely on each other to stand. The Rōpū oversees and guides the day to day operations of our National Office. It is co-chaired by the chairs of both the Māori and Tauiwi Executive Committees operating on the requirement that where a decision cannot be reached by consensus, it must have both majority Māori and majority female endorsement.
Our National Office
The small kaimahi team of the Network operates a "virtual office" from different locations across Aotearoa. Their role is to pursue the vision of the network and implement its strategic plan. Currently we employ eight kaimahi as follows:
Pou Ārahi/CEO: Responsible for the day to day operations of the National Office and the advocacy activities of the Network
Kaiawhina: Responsible for undertaking the financial and administration tasks of the National Office
Kaiatakawaenga/Members Liaison: Responsible for supporting our members and providing a link between the members and the advocacy work of the Network
Kaihāpai Ahurea: Responsible for maintaining Korowai Manaaki (a space for kaimahi Māori across the Network to connect, share and grow) as well as supporting the cultural and intersectional competency and safety of all member agencies
Kaitohutohu Kaha/Strengths Advisor: Responsible for undertaking a special focus project supporting member organisations to demonstrate and evidence their effectiveness and importance of specialist family violence services
Whakangungu Kaimahi Team (2): Responsible for developing and delivering training opportunities to our member organisations to support them and their staff in becoming and maintaining enhanced level knowledge, skills and insights in relation to family violence, including our online training portal
Mātanga Pūnaha Mōhiohio/IT Support Specialist: Responsible for maintaining the online National Office IT infrastructure and systems as well as our website and online training portal
Funding for our mahi (work) is provided by the Ministry of Social Development, and the generosity of the Lottery Grants Board. Member agencies and our affiliated supporters pay a small annual membership/supporters fee.
Our Principles and Values
In undertaking their Mahi / Work, our members commit to the following pou:
Te Tiriti o Waitangi
Acknowledging Māori people as Tangata Whenua and actualising the “partnership intended” by Te Tiriti.
Te tapu o te whare tangata me te ahua atua o te tamariki, mo nga tangata katoa
Honouring the sanctity of women, the divinity of children for all humankind (reflected in our Statement of Paramountcy “The safety of women and children is paramount.”)
Tu Tangata Tāne
Providing a place for Tāne (men) to stand (in taking responsibility for speaking out against men’s violence and being accountable for their own violence)
Our members also commit to the following values:
TIKANGA
We will respect and follow the correct processes in the way we do our work
TINO RANGATIRATANGA
We will honour the self-determination and autonomy of all and ensure that “the relevant people decide”
MANA TANGATA
We will be respectful in our work and conduct ourselves in mana enhancing ways in all relationships
AROHA
We will undertake out work in a supportive and nurturing environment with a generosity of spirit and compassion
TUMANAKO
We will be forward focused, proactive and visionary
PONO
We will be honest and upfront in our engagements and behave with integrity
KOI MAHI
We will encourage and engage in best practice, we are committed to excellence in practice including complimenting with appropriate epidemiologies
RANGIMARIE
We will act with generosity, understanding and goodwill to all people
Our Kaupapa and Vision
Our shared vision is for an Aotearoa / New Zealand wide family violence prevention and response system which is accountable, effective, sustainable, accessible, and just.
By “family violence prevention and response system” we mean all the parts of and laws and policies, practices and procedures which are responsible for preventing family violence and/or addressing it when it occurs.
When we say a “system which is accountable, effective, sustainable, accessible, and just” we mean a system which:
- Is promotes a consistent societal message that family violence, in all its forms, is unacceptable, unlawful and will not be tolerated;
- Subscribes to the notion that, in Aotearoa, violence is both gendered and a direct effect of colonisation;
- Acknowledges that the primary purpose is to account to and ensure the safety of victims/survivors of family violence;
- Embraces the understanding that accountability to victims/survivors and effectiveness are best achieved by a dual approach which BOTH holds the perpetrator to account (for example, through criminal processes) AND ensures the perpetrator has ample opportunity to confront, address and stop their own unacceptable and unlawful behaviours;
- Is centrally coordinated by government (horizontal coordination) but is guided and informed by the wider community, particularly those people and population groups most impacted by family violence (vertical coordination);
- Is sufficiently resourced in the long term to ensure that all parts of the system can operate effectively and in unison with all other parts of the system;
- Is capable of meeting people where they are and can respond and adapt to the needs of the individuals, families and whānau who access or may need to access it;
- Ensures that intervention is timely, fair and transparent.
Our Shared Analysis of Family Violence
All our members respect and work from a space which recognises that:
- Family violence in Aotearoa/New Zealand is gendered in nature and its victims are, most often, women and children. This does not diminish the understanding that some men can be victims and some women can be perpetrators of family violence;
- The over-representation of Māori in family violence statistics is a direct result of colonisation and has enduring impacts on the structure of Māori society (whānau, iwi, hapū), its sense of autonomy and well-being and its ability to make decisions for itself;
- The colonising culture in Aotearoa/New Zealand is imbued with “normalising narratives” (stories it tells about itself) which serve to maintain its dominance and which actively work against efforts to address family violence. Those include, but are not limited to:
Normalising Narrative
There are only two genders. Each have specific roles, responsibilities and expected models of behaviour and appearance.
Corresponding Belief Systems
The male gender is more important, rational, powerful, worthy than the female gender.
Those who do not adhere to their assigned gender or who fail to adhere to their specified gender roles, responsibilities and models of behaviour and appearance are less valuable or worthy of protection than those who do adhere.
Family Violence Impact
High levels of women as well as transgender people who are victims of family violence. Low levels of reporting of family violence towards men and disbelief that men can be victims and women can be perpetrators.
Normalising Narrative
There is only one true or valid sexual orientation - heterosexuality.
Corresponding Belief Systems
Sexualities, other than heterosexuality, are less important, valuable, acceptable or worthy of respect or protection.
Family Violence Impact
High levels of family (and societal) violence towards LGBTIQ people.
Normalising Narrative
The productive able-bodied person is the ideal.
Corresponding Belief Systems
People who are too young or old to be productive are less valuable. Bodies which are less able are less valuable than able bodies.
Family Violence Impact
High levels of family violence towards children, the elderly and people with disabilities.
Normalising Narrative
Pākehā culture is the one true and worthy culture.
Corresponding Belief Systems
Other cultures and their peoples are less worthy, rational, advanced, capable or worthy of respect and protection. Pākehā culture has all the right answers.
Family Violence Impact
High levels of family violence towards and between Māori people and people from diverse cultures.
Our members undertake their mahi from that shared analysis and endeavour to engage in practices which challenge those normalising narratives.
Our Special Responsibility
Te Kupenga Whakaoti Mahi Patunga / National Network of Family Violence Services Incorporated recognises that family violence is “everyone’s business” and that everyone (including government and non-government instrumentalities and specialist and non-specialist agencies) has roles and responsibilities in relation to preventing family violence and responding to it when it occurs.
Wherever possible, we are committed to working in partnership with all other parts of the system and collaborating with other agencies, networks and entities in addressing family violence.
Consistent with our kaupapa, pou and matapono, what distinguishes Te Kupenga from others is that we have specific responsibility for speaking to the “perpetrator narrative”.
While almost all our member agencies today provide support and services to victims, perpetrators and their extended families and whānau, our whakapapa to men’s stopping violence services over thirty years, provides us with specific insight and experience in terms of that narrative.
The Perpetrator Narrative
- An effective family violence prevention and response system must always be focused on ensuring the safety of victims/survivors, their families/whānau and of accounting to victims/survivors when violence occurs;
- The most effective way of ensuring safety and accounting to victims/survivors is by preventing violence from ever occurring, and, if it does, ensuring that it does not recur;
- As such, an effective family violence system must have a consistent message that violence in all its forms is unacceptable and will not be tolerated and, when violence does occur, ensures that the system:
a) Holds perpetrators to account for their violence; AND
b) Provides perpetrators with appropriate and supported opportunities to alter their behaviours; - Engaging in violent behaviour is ALWAYS a choice made by the perpetrator;
- While there may be multiple explanations for the behaviour of perpetrators, ranging from the systemic (for example, the nature of a patriarchal system, the impacts of colonisation) to the personal (for example, early exposure to family violence, mental health and addictions), none of those explanations detract from the position that violent behaviour is a choice made by the perpetrator;
- Explanations are useful to inform the type of supported interventions with the perpetrator which may be required to address and prevent violent behaviours but those explanations never excuse those behaviours;
- With skilled, timely, resourced and compassionate interventions, most perpetrators can be supported to make safer and healthier choices about their behaviour.
A family violence system which does not recognise, heed and invest in the perpetrator narrative is one which is destined to create more victims.
Our Structure and Operations
The Mahi of the Network
Broadly, our work is to provide effective advocacy, leadership and support to and for our members as specialist family violence services across Aotearoa/New Zealand.
By advocacy, we mean activities which seek to bring to fruition our vision. Advocacy activities may include (but are not limited to); promoting structural change through lobbying government and politicians, writing submissions designed to influence structural and legal reform, participating in consultation processes designed to inform systemic change, using media platforms to both highlight limitations in the current family violence prevention and response system and give voice to ideas and solutions in addressing those limitations and forming or joining alliances and coalitions with like-minded organisations to pursue our vision.
By leadership, we mean being a trusted source of information, advice and ideas to achieve our vision. Our leadership activities may include (but are not limited to); undertaking and supporting research to inform the development of the family violence prevention and response system, developing and promoting best practice in family violence prevention and response services, promoting and showcasing the work of our members and using media platforms to deliver commentary.
By support for our members, we mean utilising our resources in ways which provide practical assistance to our members in undertaking their work. Our membership support activities may include (but are not limited to); providing advice and training to members, providing and facilitating communication and information sharing platforms, identifying and resourcing opportunities for collaborations between members and between members and other parts of the family violence prevention and response system, and identifying and sharing with members opportunities to enhance their knowledge, skills and organisational capacities in undertaking their work.
By “specialist family violence services”, we mean those agencies which are members of (or eligible for membership of) Te Kupenga and which have as their sole or substantial focus, the delivery of services, programmes and other supports to people who are perpetrators of or impacted by family violence.
The Governance of our Network
Our members elect representatives to the Partnership Rōpū (governance board). This is made up of the Māori Executive Committee (3 members), which has oversight of kaupapa Māori services, and the Tauiwi Executive Committee, (3 members) which has responsibility for tauiwi (non-Māori) services. Across the Rōpū, there is equal representation of men and women.
We liken the sides of our Rōpū to the two walls of a wharenui (meeting house): the walls rely on each other to stand. The Rōpū oversees and guides the day to day operations of our National Office. It is co-chaired by the chairs of both the Māori and Tauiwi Executive Committees operating on the requirement that where a decision cannot be reached by consensus, it must have both majority Māori and majority female endorsement.
Our National Office
The small kaimahi team of the Network operates a "virtual office" from different locations across Aotearoa. Their role is to pursue the vision of the network and implement its strategic plan. Currently we employ eight kaimahi as follows:
Pou Ārahi/CEO: Responsible for the day to day operations of the National Office and the advocacy activities of the Network
Kaiawhina: Responsible for undertaking the financial and administration tasks of the National Office
Kaiatakawaenga/Members Liaison: Responsible for supporting our members and providing a link between the members and the advocacy work of the Network
Kaihāpai Ahurea: Responsible for maintaining Korowai Manaaki (a space for kaimahi Māori across the Network to connect, share and grow) as well as supporting the cultural and intersectional competency and safety of all member agencies
Kaitohutohu Kaha/Strengths Advisor: Responsible for undertaking a special focus project supporting member organisations to demonstrate and evidence their effectiveness and importance of specialist family violence services
Whakangungu Kaimahi Team (2): Responsible for developing and delivering training opportunities to our member organisations to support them and their staff in becoming and maintaining enhanced level knowledge, skills and insights in relation to family violence, including our online training portal
Mātanga Pūnaha Mōhiohio/IT Support Specialist: Responsible for maintaining the online National Office IT infrastructure and systems as well as our website and online training portal
Funding for our mahi (work) is provided by the Ministry of Social Development, and the generosity of the Lottery Grants Board. Member agencies and our affiliated supporters pay a small annual membership/supporters fee.